Better Angles, Less Strain: When Positioning Furniture Helps More Than It Hypes
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Better Angles, Less Strain: When Positioning Furniture Helps More Than It Hypes

Many couples think positioning furniture is about novelty when its real value is often much more practical. This article explains how wedges, benches, and swings can reduce strain, improve alignment, and support better rhythm without turning sex into a performance project. Members will learn how to evaluate whether a tool actually fits their bodies, their space, and their marriage. If comfort has been the hidden barrier, this gives you a much better place to start.

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The Couple’s Guide to Slowing Him Down Together
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The Couple’s Guide to Slowing Him Down Together

Many husbands try to last longer by pushing through sensation alone, but that often makes control worse. This article shows couples how to slow arousal down together without losing connection, momentum, or confidence. You will learn three practical pacing techniques, the most common mistakes that speed ejaculation up, and simple ways a wife can help without making the moment feel clinical. It is a hands-on guide for couples who want better teamwork and better sexual timing.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 6
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Sensate Focus: Handout 6

Stage 5 of Sensate Focus applies the same attentional principles to intercourse, helping couples avoid slipping back into pressure or performance. This handout explains how to approach penetration slowly and sensually, including the use of stillness, gentle movement, and pauses to support awareness of physical sensation. The emphasis remains on presence rather than outcome, allowing intimacy to unfold without reverting to goal-oriented sex.

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The Yes / Maybe / No List That Actually Improves Married Sex
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The Yes / Maybe / No List That Actually Improves Married Sex

A yes / maybe / no list can do much more than generate ideas. Used well, it helps married couples reduce awkwardness, surface hidden differences, and talk about sex with more clarity and less pressure. This article shows how to use the tool in a way that builds trust rather than tension. It also includes a downloadable worksheet couples can use right away.

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Sensory Deprivation and Erotic Focus: The Psychology Behind Less Input, More Intensity
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Sensory Deprivation and Erotic Focus: The Psychology Behind Less Input, More Intensity

Sensory deprivation often looks simple from the outside, but its real power is psychological. This article explains why reducing input can heighten attention, anticipation, and trust, and why couples often find the experience more intense than expected. It also gives readers a practical framework for consent, pacing, and debriefing so curiosity does not outrun structure. For paid members, this is a grounded guide to the inner mechanics of one of kink’s most misunderstood dynamics.

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Intellectual Intimacy Worksheet
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Intellectual Intimacy Worksheet

Intellectual intimacy is about more than good conversation. It is your ability to think, plan, and build a life together. When couples avoid planning or struggle to align their goals, they often feel stuck, disconnected, or directionless. This worksheet helps you clarify your individual goals, identify where you and your partner align, and start creating a shared vision for your future. If you want a relationship that is intentional and forward-moving, this is where to start.

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Sex as a Skill: How Married Couples Build Better Sex Through Practice, Not Luck
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Sex as a Skill: How Married Couples Build Better Sex Through Practice, Not Luck

Many married couples quietly believe that good sex should happen naturally, and that belief keeps them stuck. This article shows why sexual satisfaction is usually built through skill, not luck, and gives couples a practical framework for getting better together. Inside, you will learn three named techniques that help you observe more carefully, adjust more effectively, and stop disrupting what is already working. If you want your sex life to feel more confident, consistent, and responsive, this is the right place to start.

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Spiritual Intimacy Worksheet
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Spiritual Intimacy Worksheet

Spiritual intimacy is about more than religion. It is the shared alignment of your beliefs, values, and sense of purpose. When couples lack this alignment, they often feel disconnected or pulled in different directions, even if everything else seems fine. This worksheet helps you clarify what matters most, identify where you and your partner align, and start building a shared vision for your life together. If you want a stronger, more unified relationship, this is where you start.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 5
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Sensate Focus: Handout 5

Stage 4 of Sensate Focus introduces mutual touching, where both partners attend to the sensations of touching and being touched at the same time. This handout explains how to manage divided attention, include oral sensing as sensual exploration, and even change the setting to support awareness without increasing pressure. The focus remains on sensation rather than stimulation, helping couples maintain presence as intimacy becomes more complex.

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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 3 – In Session
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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 3 – In Session

This handout explains Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 3 – With the Coach, the most structured and supportive step in the GVSE progression. It describes how real-time professional guidance, clear visual setup, and coordinated participation between spouses can help address lingering discomfort or resistance after earlier stages. This stage is optional, carefully bounded, and designed to meet specific needs when private or couple-based practice is no longer sufficient.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 4
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Sensate Focus: Handout 4

Stage 3 of Sensate Focus introduces lotion to change the texture of touch and increase sensory complexity without increasing sexual pressure. This handout explains why altering sensation helps strengthen attentional focus and how to use lotion without turning the exercise into massage or stimulation. The emphasis remains on noticing sensation and redirecting attention as needed.

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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 2 - Couple
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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 2 - Couple

This handout introduces Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 2 – Couple, a nonsexual, educational exercise designed to deepen trust and understanding within marriage. It guides couples through a slow, verbalized exploration of the wife’s anatomy that emphasizes safety, reverence, and shared learning. Many couples are surprised by how grounding and connective this experience feels.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 3
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Sensate Focus: Handout 3

Stage 2 of Sensate Focus introduces breast and genital touch while keeping the same non-demand, sensory focus established in Stage 1. This handout explains how to include more sensitive areas without shifting into performance, stimulation, or outcome-driven touch. It also introduces positioning and the hand-riding technique as ways to support comfort and attention as sensations become more intense.

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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 1 - Private
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Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 1 - Private

This handout guides sexual intimacy coaching clients through a private, self-directed version of the Guided Vaginal Self Exam. It offers a gentle, nonsexual way to build comfort and confidence with your own anatomy between sessions. Inside, you will find simple steps, preparation tips, and supportive language to help you reconnect with your body in a safe and values-conscious way.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 2
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Sensate Focus: Handout 2

Stage 1 of Sensate Focus introduces the core skill of redirecting attention away from pressure and toward physical sensation. By removing breasts and genitals from the experience, this stage allows couples to practice touch without performance concerns. This handout explains how to approach non-genital touch in a simple, structured way so the body can begin to respond with greater ease and confidence.

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Sensate Focus: Handout 1
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Sensate Focus: Handout 1

Sensate Focus is not a sexual technique but a way of redirecting attention away from pressure and toward physical sensation. This handout explains the core principles behind the practice, why trying to force arousal often backfires, and how focusing on sensation creates the conditions for sexual response to return naturally. It provides the foundation for all later stages of Sensate Focus and is meant to be read before beginning any of the exercises.

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