Stage 3 of Sensate Focus introduces lotion to change the texture of touch and increase sensory complexity without increasing sexual pressure. This handout explains why altering sensation helps strengthen attentional focus and how to use lotion without turning the exercise into massage or stimulation. The emphasis remains on noticing sensation and redirecting attention as needed.
James Walther is the CEO of Walther Ventures and the Walther Institute for Marital Intimacy. A U.S. Army combat medic, he holds degrees in Theology and Philosophy, a Graduate Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy, and is a Certified Sexologist. He is also the English translator of Paul VI: The Divided Pope by Yves Chiron. Through his leadership, James advances initiatives that combine academic rigor, faith, and practical resources to strengthen marriages and enrich the Church’s vision for marital intimacy.
