Sensate Focus: Handout 5
Stage 4 of Sensate Focus introduces mutual touching, where both partners attend to the sensations of touching and being touched at the same time. This handout explains how to manage divided attention, include oral sensing as sensual exploration, and even change the setting to support awareness without increasing pressure. The focus remains on sensation rather than stimulation, helping couples maintain presence as intimacy becomes more complex.
Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 3 – In Session
This handout explains Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 3 – With the Coach, the most structured and supportive step in the GVSE progression. It describes how real-time professional guidance, clear visual setup, and coordinated participation between spouses can help address lingering discomfort or resistance after earlier stages. This stage is optional, carefully bounded, and designed to meet specific needs when private or couple-based practice is no longer sufficient.
Sensate Focus: Handout 4
Stage 3 of Sensate Focus introduces lotion to change the texture of touch and increase sensory complexity without increasing sexual pressure. This handout explains why altering sensation helps strengthen attentional focus and how to use lotion without turning the exercise into massage or stimulation. The emphasis remains on noticing sensation and redirecting attention as needed.
Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 2 - Couple
This handout introduces Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 2 – Couple, a nonsexual, educational exercise designed to deepen trust and understanding within marriage. It guides couples through a slow, verbalized exploration of the wife’s anatomy that emphasizes safety, reverence, and shared learning. Many couples are surprised by how grounding and connective this experience feels.
Sensate Focus: Handout 3
Stage 2 of Sensate Focus introduces breast and genital touch while keeping the same non-demand, sensory focus established in Stage 1. This handout explains how to include more sensitive areas without shifting into performance, stimulation, or outcome-driven touch. It also introduces positioning and the hand-riding technique as ways to support comfort and attention as sensations become more intense.
Guided Vaginal Self Exam: Stage 1 - Private
This handout guides sexual intimacy coaching clients through a private, self-directed version of the Guided Vaginal Self Exam. It offers a gentle, nonsexual way to build comfort and confidence with your own anatomy between sessions. Inside, you will find simple steps, preparation tips, and supportive language to help you reconnect with your body in a safe and values-conscious way.
Sensate Focus: Handout 2
Stage 1 of Sensate Focus introduces the core skill of redirecting attention away from pressure and toward physical sensation. By removing breasts and genitals from the experience, this stage allows couples to practice touch without performance concerns. This handout explains how to approach non-genital touch in a simple, structured way so the body can begin to respond with greater ease and confidence.
Sensate Focus: Handout 1
Sensate Focus is not a sexual technique but a way of redirecting attention away from pressure and toward physical sensation. This handout explains the core principles behind the practice, why trying to force arousal often backfires, and how focusing on sensation creates the conditions for sexual response to return naturally. It provides the foundation for all later stages of Sensate Focus and is meant to be read before beginning any of the exercises.