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Now Accepting Clients for Sexual Intimacy Coaching and Marriage and Sex Therapy
I now have greater availability for sexual intimacy coaching through the Apostolate for Marital Intimacy and marriage and sex therapy through Archangel Catholic. Coaching focuses on specific sexual difficulties, while therapy addresses the relationship alongside those concerns and their effects. Therapy is available through telehealth in Washington, Colorado, and Idaho; please request James Walther when contacting Archangel Catholic. You can also explore my newly published Psychology Today profile or reach out for help choosing the right service.
Why We Have a Private Boutique
The WIMI Private Boutique is not designed to compete with large online retailers. Instead, it offers a deliberately small collection of sexual wellness products, marital aids, and therapeutic resources that I have personally recommended to clients and can vouch for. Each product is selected because it can serve a practical purpose in sexual health, coaching, therapy, or marital intimacy. Access to the Boutique is free with a WIMI account, and our selection will continue to grow as we identify and source additional products worth recommending.
Normal, Distressing, or Diagnostic? How to Assess Desire Discrepancy Before You Try to Fix It
Most couples assume a desire mismatch means someone is broken, avoidant, or simply not trying hard enough. That is usually too shallow to be useful. This article explains how clinicians and informed couples can tell the difference between normal variation, meaningful distress, and a pattern that may require fuller evaluation. The goal is not to normalize everything or diagnose too fast. It is to assess the problem accurately before trying to solve it.
Better Lover, Better Skills: What Sex Therapists Mean When They Say Great Sex Is Learnable
Most people think great sex comes down to chemistry, confidence, or luck. Therapists tend to see something else: skill. This article breaks down what “being a better lover” actually means in clinical terms, from responsiveness and communication to feedback and emotional presence. If your sex life feels repetitive, tense, or harder than it should, the problem may be less about compatibility and more about what no one taught you to practice.
Sexual Excellence Without Perfectionism: A Better Standard for Long-Term Couples
Most couples are using the wrong standard for judging their sex life. They confuse great sex with perfection, chemistry, or effortless compatibility, then panic when real relationships get messy. This article offers a better model: sexual excellence as a learnable skill built through responsiveness, feedback, and realistic expectations. That shift is not just more hopeful. It is more clinically accurate.