Sensate Focus: Why Trying Less Often Leads to More in Sex

Many couples discover that the harder they try to fix their sex life, the more pressure and anxiety they feel. Sensate Focus offers a counterintuitive alternative: stop trying to make arousal happen and redirect attention to simple physical sensation instead. In this article, I explain why this paradox works, how Sensate Focus functions as an attentional discipline rather than a technique, and why it plays a foundational role in my sexual intimacy coaching at WIMI.