Meet the Not Weird Sex Coach
When Normal Couples Feel Like the Odd Ones Out
If you have ever searched the internet for a sex therapist or sex coach, you may have noticed something. It can feel like stepping into a parallel universe. Everywhere you turn, there are long lists of niche identities and specialized communities. These groups deserve care, but this trend creates an unexpected problem. Normal couples in ordinary, heterosexual, monogamous relationships start to feel like they are the odd ones out.
That is where I come in. I am the not weird sex coach.
Most couples do not want to explore a new identity. They want to figure out why sex has become awkward, stressful, or confusing. They want pleasure, closeness, and fewer misunderstandings. They do not want to feel like they need a glossary or a crash course in subcultures just to get help.
“Normal couples in ordinary, heterosexual, monogamous relationships start to feel like they are the odd ones out.”
What I Actually Help With
My focus is on the struggles that everyday couples face. Maybe desire is uneven. Maybe things feel tense. Maybe pleasure is hard to find. Maybe sex feels more like a chore than a joy. These are normal human problems. You do not need to reinvent yourself to get better at intimacy. You just need support that fits your life.
Coaching vs Therapy: Why It Matters
Sex therapy is psychotherapy. It treats diagnosable sexual disorders. Sex coaching helps people who do not have disorders. They have difficulties, questions, and habits that need adjusting. Coaching is practical, educational, and grounded in real life. For most couples, coaching is the right fit because they are not broken. They just want to enjoy each other more.
Client Autonomy Comes First
Everything I do rests on one principle. Client autonomy and self determination. You decide what fits your values, your relationship, and your goals. I will never push you toward practices, beliefs, or lifestyles that do not align with who you are. My job is to help you build the intimacy you want, not to redirect you into something you never asked for.
A Bit About Me
James Walther, MA, ABS
Since transparency matters, here is who I am. I am a married Roman Catholic. Many clients appreciate that I understand traditional values and committed marriage. But I never impose my faith on anyone. I have worked with non Catholic Christians, clients from other religions, and clients with no religious background at all.
I am also politically conservative. At the same time, I have coached people across the political spectrum. Respect goes both ways, and it creates great work.
Why My Perspective Matters
Most sexologists lean liberal. For many conservative and Christian couples, that creates real hesitation. They worry their values will be dismissed. They worry their commitment to monogamy will be treated as outdated. They worry they will be nudged toward ideas that do not fit them.
With me, you never have to carry that fear into the room.
My Not Weird Approach
I take intimacy seriously, but I do not take myself too seriously. I bring research, humor, clarity, and respect. I adapt my style to your worldview. I help you build connection and pleasure within the relationship you already have. No pressure. No agenda. No weird vibes.
Why Normal Couples Choose Me
They want a relatable guide who understands marriage. They want someone who respects faith, commitment, and boundaries. They want real advice for real people. They want a place to talk about sex without feeling pressured to become something they are not.
A Warm Invitation
If you want help improving intimacy, and you prefer your sex coaching without a side of circus tricks, I am your guy. I welcome you just as you are, and I look forward to helping you build the kind of sexual connection that fits your life with honesty, warmth, and a healthy dose of humor.
