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She Comes First: Why Prioritizing Female Orgasm Improves Sexual Satisfaction For Everyone
What if one of the simplest ways to improve sexual satisfaction was to rethink the order of orgasm? Popularized by Dr. Ian Kerner, the “She Comes First” (SCF) framework argues that prioritizing female pleasure often leads to better sex, stronger emotional connection, and reduced performance anxiety for both spouses. This article explores the research behind the orgasm gap, the biological differences in male and female arousal timelines, and why intentional attention to female pleasure may improve mutual satisfaction. Grounded in contemporary sex research, this WIMI article examines SCF through a more academic and evidence-based lens.
Integrating the PLISSIT Model into Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: A Philosophically Coherent Approach
Can the PLISSIT model be integrated into Solution-Focused Brief Therapy without contradiction? Many practitioners use both, but few examine whether they align philosophically. While SFBT emphasizes collaboration and the client as the expert, PLISSIT includes education and specific suggestions, creating an apparent tension. This article argues that the conflict is not real but misunderstood. By distinguishing between the client’s expertise in their lived experience and the practitioner’s expertise in their field, and by reframing interventions as collaborative experiments rather than prescriptions, PLISSIT can be fully integrated within an SFBT framework, allowing practitioners to remain both philosophically coherent and practically effective.
Pornography: Choosing the Lesser Evil in a Broken Industry
Pornography will not disappear, and many people who want chastity still feel unable to quit. This reflection explores why mainstream porn causes real harm and why, for those not yet ready for abstinence, choosing the lesser evil matters. If you are still working toward freedom, there are safer and more honest steps you can take starting today.
Confronting the Philosophical Foundations of Modern Sexology: Why the Discipline Needs a Scholastic Re-Foundation for Meaningful Scientific Progress
Sexology has made enormous empirical progress, yet its core models still leave many people feeling unseen. This article explores why the field struggles to integrate meaning, relationship, and purpose into its scientific frameworks and argues that a return to sound philosophical foundations can strengthen both research and clinical care.
Guided Vaginal Self Exam: A Theory-Based Body Literacy and Embodiment Intervention for Women Experiencing Genital Disconnection
Many women carry fear, shame, or uncertainty about their bodies after difficult medical or sexual experiences. The Guided Vaginal Self Exam offers a private, nonsexual way to reconnect with the body through gentle, self-directed exploration. This approach adapts select elements of the Bodysex method while honoring modesty and personal values. It combines accurate education, structured self-touch, and trauma-informed pacing to help clients view and understand their anatomy with confidence. This article explains the theory behind the intervention, outlines the safeguards that make it ethical, and shows how it may support healing for women who feel disconnected from their bodies.
The Fourfold Intimacy Model: Bridging Classical Anthropology and Contemporary Marriage Research
The Fourfold Intimacy model, developed by James Walther of the Walther Institute for Marital Intimacy (WIMI), defines intimacy as an interpersonal state of secure vulnerability and identifies four essential dimensions: spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and physical. Drawing from classical anthropology and modern psychology, the model offers a holistic framework for understanding how marriages flourish when all domains are nurtured together. This article introduces the model, traces its historical roots, and highlights practical ways couples can strengthen their connection across every dimension.